Wednesday, July 26, 2017

The Purple Dress Dinner

Last night, our family celebrated 2nd annual "Purple Dress Dinner".   To be honest, I almost called it off because of the stress-and-strain of the recent week -- not to mention that I knew this morning I'd have to jump in a rental car and drive 700 to a different kind of party, "MathFest".

But, oh man, I'm so glad we had the party.  It was wonderful!   And just what I needed, in so many ways.  For one thing, three of my kids who I didn't expect to be here actually came:  K-daughter got home from work sooner than I expected and brought A-child with her, my youngest step-daughter just happened to be in town instead of at grad school in Minnesota, and even J-son showed up.  That means, of our six kids, we were missing only my oldest step-daughter, who has the good excuse of living several hundred miles away with her husband.

Eight-ninths of a complete family reunion!

But even more, we got to toss into the pot a few other friends, most of whom, it turned out, had "family" ties to me in odd ways.

Friends in purple are friends indeed.

For one thing, the host family that J-son has landed with came, so we got to meet each other.  The mom and I had some very very good conversations.  Yes.   Also, my own former host daughter Y came and helped me cut up CSA vegetables before the party, for old times' sake.  She's just finished up a year leading Inter Varsity Christian Fellowship at my college, and she's headed for medical school in a week.  We also got to be elegant with my friend K, who had long ago suggested to us that we ought to adopt a child from Haiti (the adoption of X-son fell through, but we still support him).  So there were a lot of family ties, Miser Mom style, among these guests.

We dined on elegant finger foods, had deep and intensely helpful conversations, and then went for a stroll.  The stroll included the requisite tour of a local rose garden.  It was good to take time to smell the flowers.
These roses were pretty but didn't have much of a smell;
the yellow "Julia Child" roses had an aroma to swoon for.

As for dinner, you may or may not care about the menu.  But as I ran around pulling together this party at the last-minute, I found it super helpful to look at my pictures and remember ideas from last year, so as a service to my next-years's self, I'm posting bad pictures of good food here.  With the exception of the fruit and wine, this was all made from food I was lucky enough to have lying around the house.  How nice to have a well-stocked larder!

Tomato-basil salad in small canning jars with spoons, and strawberries on skewers.
Hummus on summer squash, and cherries on the stem.
Also, just out of the photo, fresh-baked bread and a jar of carrot-top pesto.
Kale with lemon massaged into the leaves,
quiche in muffin pans,
and sliced cucumbers.
Not pictured:  Chocolate cupcakes.



Monday, July 24, 2017

J-son: the Village has arrived

Saturday night, I wrote that J-son has moved out.  What's up with that?

I've been trying to figure out how to write this post in an unbiased way, and I finally decided I just can't.  What I'm about to describe is totally the way *I* see the past few months, not the way J-son sees this summer.   Feel free to read between the lines and see my flaws that I can't or won't admit; I'm sure they're there.

J-son has always been a kid who is (a) charming and (b) prone to impulsive mistakes.  Summers, with the lack of school and structure, have been times of woe and hardship for us in the past, most notably in 2013 in a series of events that culminated in what we called "the horrible week", where the follow-up discipline included installing an alarm on his bedroom door, removal of almost all objects from his room, and near-daily searches of all his belongings. That was a bad time.

We got through the horrible week and its follow-ups, and things returned to normal(ish) for a while, but then they got less normal in the fall leading up to New Year's 2016.  More bad things happened, eventually getting bad enough that we (meaning he) were/was on the verge of prison. But at the edge of that cliff, we managed to pull J-son back, and had a cathartic and redemptive glimpse at how to apologize and make restitution.   My husband has been going through counseling since then, since dealing with the fallout has been a bit more than he feels like he can deal with on his own, or even with my help.

This past year, a complication of luxury threw its monkey wrench into the mix when my husband's social security endeavors started spewing unearned money at  J-son. I worried that this money would not help shore up his financial future, but would rather steer him in the wrong direction -- back towards wanting and stealing.  Since I'm the one telling this story, I'll say that my fears were born out by subsequent facts.  (Again, you can disagree with me).

All that is the background that was swirling in my head as I was preparing for this summer, with J-son already 18 years old but still needing to complete his senior year of high school, and with my husband planning to take his long-awaited bicycle trip in Eastern Europe. How do we keep this kid engaged in good ways?  How do we stave off dangerous boredom?

My (I think) reasonable plan was that J-son ought to have a summer job.  After all, he loves spending money, an activity that is demonstrably easier to do when you are actively earning money.  J-son semi-dutifully (although in my mind, half-heartedly) applied for a few jobs this spring and didn't get any.  His boxing coach, on the other hand, assured us that J-son could do work at the boxing gym to keep himself busy, making a small amount of money along the way.  And that -- the boxing gym -- was the plan for J-son's summer when my husband boarded his bike onto the train/plane that would take him to Serbia in June.

Needless to say, this plan didn't work out. From my completely biased viewpoint, J-son committed all the classic teenage sins. In spite of claiming to love boxing above all else, he avoided the gym (both workouts and paid work).  He stayed out with friends all night and then slept all day at home.  He spent all the money he had, and then he returned to bad habits, sneaking money from my wallet, lying about money he'd made, spending it on shoes and snacks or even more nefarious substances.

Fortunately, even with my husband gone, I was not alone. J-son's former foster mom took him away for a week, during which he briefly got his head screwed back on straight. (He texted me saying, "I'ma try to apply for a job to" and "Shes been helping me realize alot of things").  His foster mom told me, "It takes a village to raise a child; well, the village has arrived!"   This has been my favorite line of the summer --- so much so, that I'll repeat it:


The village has arrived.

I've been a fan of the concept "social capital" for a long time, and so I've been encouraged by the fact that whatever J-son lacks in impulse control, he makes up for in agreeableness.  He's been blessed by -- and has been a blessing to -- many others around him, including his friends and their parents and his foster mom and his birth mom and his boxing coach.   If J-son thrives in the future, it's because of this village that has formed (or perhaps, that he has formed) around him.

At any rate, fast-forward to this past Saturday, when J-son returned from (per usual) sleeping over at a friend's house, so he could do his weekly chores.  A dispute arose over missing money from N-son's dresser, and a search of J-son's pockets determined that J-son had taken the money.  I got understandably (to my mind) upset:  I need to make sure that the many people who live in my home are safe.  J-son and I had some serious words about where he lives, and I told him that there was a good chance I was going to take his foster mom up on her offer to have him finish his senior year of his school at her home, 40 miles away from where we live.  He'd be insulated from the many temptations of our city (including the temptations of his "bad" friends).  J-son balked; moving back in with his foster mom would mean leaving behind his boxing and all of his friends, for good or ill.

Later in the day, J-son announced to my husband that he'd moved out.  He'd taken with him his many valuable shoes, and that more than anything else indicated he was serious.  He'd rather live with friends, without money, than with us or his foster mom with money.

That was where I left things Saturday night.

As of today, without knowing for sure where his life is headed in the future, I think I can say that I'm still cautiously optimistic.   For one thing, this kid has serious village wealth.  He's got several places to stay, including at the boxing gym and with kids his age whose parents keep telling me how wonderful he is.  For another thing, he and I are both working to make sure no bridges are burned -- I visited him on Sunday to bring him two weeks worth of ADHD meds, and to encourage him to adult up.  I made a list of things he needs to do:

  1. Finish summer school.
  2. Find a doctor in the city, transfer your medical records there, and get a new prescription for your ADHD meds.
  3. Get a checking account with a debit card, or get a new debit card for your existing account. ***
  4. Call your foster mom and arrange a visit with her.
[*** He cut up his last card after he went on a spending spree that even he decided was over the top. So now he has no way to access the money in his credit union account without visiting the bank in person.  The money in this account currently happens to be only 17¢,
 because having money has meant spending money.  ]

He's already followed through on task #4, and he's promised to follow through on #1 over the course of the next week and a half, and he says (which I reserve judgement on) that he's going to do his best on #2 and #3, both of which I've offered to help him with.  I also reminded him that our other kids who've moved out of the home come back once a week for Family Fun Night, and that he should, too -- and his response was to ask if he could bring his friend.  Cool.  yes.

So we're burning no bridges.  I've told him that I've been hoping he'd be able to move out of the home someday, although I was expecting that "someday" would come after he graduated from high school.   But if this is the way he wants to structure his life, I'll try to figure out a way to work with this, rather than against it.  


And that's where we are with J-son.  It's a saga, and I don't know the end, or even the next chapter, of the saga yet.  But the story isn't over, and I'm still crossing my fingers for a happy ending.

Saturday, July 22, 2017

Miser Family Update, moving edition

Life continues to be rich and full in the Miser Mom household.

There has been some news, in relationship to which, all other news pales. We'll cover the pale news first.

Me, I finished up my summer research with my student. She's managed to make some nice progress on our question, and I'm looking forward to writing up the results for possible publication this fall. I keep banging away on my own math paper, too. I love having several math project to keep me busy.

N-son and my husband had a blast heading out Friday to Philadelphia to protest Jeff Sessions' message, who was there to protest that Philadelphia (and other cities) have declared themselves sanctuary cities. N-son enjoys being politically active with his dad. When they're not heading off to political rallies, N-son and J-son have also both been spending their mornings caught up in their summer school classes.

I-daughter got the good news that her eye problems were not auto-immune diseases, but might have been "eye-shingles". At any rate, she's recovering well and we're all happy about that.

. . . and that's all the simple news.

In more substantial news, you might have inferred by reading between the lines that J-son has been both growing up and growing apart this summer; earlier today the "apart" aspect of his growing took precedence, and he moved out of the house to live with friends and also at his boxing gym. We're still uncertain as to what this will look like long-term for him, and I guess also for us. More updates as we get them in the future.

And that's the news from the Miser Mom clan, a family that continues to be prosperous in our adventures.

Thursday, July 20, 2017

Vegetable torture

The zucchini and the summer squash from our CSA were trying to invade my kitchen and take over all our counters and shelf space.  So I put them on the rack.

Dehydrating squash.

My homemade drying rack, that is. Made (from the ground up) of

  • a little red wagon, 
  • a wide base made of a few fence boards, 
  • some trash-picked framing boards to hold the screen, 
  • a discarded window screen,
  • more trash-picked framing boards screwed to a plexiglass storm window.
After just two days in the sun (not to mention an overnight under the moon), a half-a dozen zucchini will dry up enough that they can fit almost into a single quart-sized canning jar.  They're not quite like potato chips, but they are much more snack-like than before dehydrating. And this way, I can also save them for winter-time soups. Ymmmmm . . . 

So much of converting plants into food --- that is, so much of dealing with our massive abundance of fresh vegetables that seems to overwhelm us this time of year --- sounds like torture.  I wield my knife with abandon.  I rub salt into the wounds. I throw acid (vinegar) over everything.  I dump boiling oil -- or at least, oil -- on the poor, unsuspecting victim.

And the vegetable torture usually yields the desired results.  In fact, there are a couple of recipes I make and leave on the kitchen counter, knowing that they'll disappear even before dinner time.  All three of the recipes below involve both good cop/bad cop methods of interrogation.

Tomato salad:
  • bad cop torture:  wield the knife to slice the tomatoes, then do the oil, salt, vinegar treatment.
  • good cop additions: basil (fresh if you're lucky enough to have it) and chopped walnuts.  Tonight I added chopped peaches, too, since they've been lurking on the scene.
Swiss Chard salad:

  • bad cop torture:  wield the knife to slice the chard as fine as you can, then do the oil, salt, vinegar treatment.  
  • More bad cop: add chopped hot peppers.
  • good cop additions: garlic, parmesan cheese.  Oh, lordy, this is good!
Beet salad:
  • bad cop torture:  wield the knife (cuisinart) to dice the beets like coleslaw, then do the oil, salt, vinegar treatment.
  • more bad cop torture:  bring in zucchini or carrots for similar treatment.  Also, hot peppers.
  • good cop additions: garlic, black pepper.  
There's something about slicing vegetables finely that makes such a difference -- perhaps it's merely increasing the surface-area-to-volume ratio, so the dressing has more effect. But it's also truly wonderful to have bite-sized morsels of fresh vegetables so ready at hand (or at mouth).  

Tomorrow we're taking on the peach tree.  

Monday, July 17, 2017

Using recipes, and not.

My husband follows recipes, pretty much to the letter.  I mostly make up recipes out of my head as I go along, although occasionally I remember a recipe I read/developed long ago (hello, waffles!)  But aside from those remembered recipes, I basically throw stuff in a pot and cook it.  This means that I get to make up fun names for my meals . . . and I get to keep making up names, because I almost never remember what ingredients I actually used in previous meals.  Our family still fondly remembers inviting a friend over to dinner who remarked with surprise, "I've never had Pittsburgh Pasta before!  I can't believe I haven't tried this!"   All we remember of the recipe is that there were artichokes and chopped-up, leftover lasagna noodles.  Plus other "stuff".  "Stuff" is my favorite ingredient.

Possibly for this reason, I have only two cookbooks.  One is a well-loved copy of Joy of Cooking, which I've had forever. (By the way, if you ever want to read a really wonderful history that looks at kitchens, cooking, society, and also a riveting story of an old-fashioned mom with her hippie daughter, check out Stand facing the stove : the story of the women who gave America the Joy of cooking, by Anne Mendelson).   I love how my The Joy of Cooking describes the basics of preparing food, starting from scratch as well as doing stuff that's fairly sophisticated -- and if you're curious about why this book does it better than others, Mendleson's history explained how the cookbook developed to do just that.

The second cookbook is the More With Less Cookbook by Doris Janzen Longacre, which describes lots of different ways to make substitutions, and, as promised, offers many ways to make hearty meals starting with humble ingredients.  Longacre was a Mennonite woman who believed that every action tied in some way to promoting (or not) justice.  I love the philosophical preamble to the book as much as I love the pragmatic and helpful guides/recipes that follow.

(Oh, I just realized that I also have a third cookbook -- the Winnie the Pooh Cookbook.  I got it as a child, and I keep it for sentimental reasons.  Yeah).

Having said all that, here's a big hug for K-daughter, who decided to solve the "problem" of having lots of cauliflower from our CSA.  (The "problem" was that the cauliflower was sitting in the fridge and not getting eaten, because it looked like plants and not like food).  And her solution involved hunting for recipes in the modern way (on-line), combined with being willing to take a bit of advice from her mom on how to make substitutions so that using cauliflower didn't mean going to the store to buy even more ingredients.   Huzzah!

Here's the blow-by-blow, via text messages.

K: How does a new recipe for tonight sound? Cauliflower casserole? We dont have sour cream, can i substitute it for the plain yogurt we have in the fridge? Would you mind?

M: Sounds AWESOME! add a tsp or so of vinegar to the yogurt and it'll be more like sour cream. http://allrecipes.com/recipe/215240/homemade-sour-cream/

K:  Sweet! Thank you!!!

M:  You're welcome!

K:  I get out of the child watch at 6:30, i dont think it will take too long to make this if i prep for it now. So we can have dinner by 730 ish?

M:  Sounds fine by me. Thanks for cooking!

K: Totallyi just hope itll taste ok! Haha
It calls for corn flake crumbs.... Can i ise grape nuts instead?!  this may be a dumb question

M: Or regular bread crumbs -- I have a bunch in the freezer. Grape nuts would probably be too crunchy.

K: Awesome. Thanks!

****** after awesome dinner . . .  ********

M:  So where did you find that recipe???

K: I just googled online cauliflower recipes and it popped up with cauliflower casserole, and that sounded really yummy! would you like it?!

M:  Ypppers!!!

K: http://www.food.com/recipe/cauliflower-casserole-30444

Saturday, July 15, 2017

Miser Family Update, emotion version

Life continues to be rich and full in the Miser Mom household.

The big Woo-Hoo for the week was that after 5 or 6 weeks in which he visited 19 countries (14 of them via bicycle), my husband returned home today.  I think my favorite part of having him come home was seeing the faces of my normally monosyllabic, guarded teenage sons . . . these young men of mine were each radiant with happiness. I can only imagine my face reflected theirs.  It's good to have My Guy home.

And in the evocation-of-emotion theme, N-son played drums in church on Sunday morning, the same morning that I was in charge of reading the scripture.  I marched up to the pulpit and said, "I'm going to go off-topic briefly.  For all of you parents who suffer through noisy kids at home, it's such a blessing to have this child  making such wonderful music in public . . . "   I admit I got a little choked up, which is *totally* unlike me.  But seriously, he's so good at playing those drums as part of a group of other musicians.  How did that happen?

J-son has been playing to his own strengths, sparring with some big dude on Tuesday and hanging with a vast and changing collection of his friends on most evenings of this week. (Not to mention, lighting up like a lantern when he walked back into the house with a pair of friends and saw his dad here again).

For my dog-loving relatives, I'll just add that Prewash continues to be a complete joy to the family.  She's still battling a persistent case of giardia (icckkk . . . ), but behavior-wise, she's practically the perfect dog.  For example, 2-year-old A-child flops down on Prewash's head, or pulls toys out of her mouth, and the dog responds by wagging her tail and "tickling" A-child.  

As for me, I'm getting close to the end of a summer research project with one of my students; we managed to prove a pretty cool thing together by discovering the Lindemann–Weierstrass theorem, which says (among other things) that x and cos(x) can't both be algebraic unless x=0.  Life changing, that!


And that's the latest from the Miser Mom clan, a family that continues to be prosperous in our adventures. May you and yours be similarly wealthy.

Thursday, July 13, 2017

Suck it up (a vacuum cleaner repair story)

Today's blog post is brought to you by the letters "R" and "E", my favorite letters.  These combined letters, for example, lead off almost every word in the list that Bea Johnson (my Zero Waste Hero) uses to avoid trash:
  • Refuse, Reduce, Reuse, Recycle, and Rot (just barely missed the 'e' on that last one!)
And for frugalists, there are also the words "Receive" and "Repair", which will be the themes of the rest of this post.

Enter the main characters of today's story: the vacuum cleaners.

Twenty five or more years ago, before I even moved to this city (much less into this house), I bought a canister vacuum cleaner from Sears.  About a decade after that -- after I married my husband, moved to this multi-story house, and acquired a hair-shedding dog -- we got a second vacuum cleaner.  I vaguely recall the reason being something like this:  the original vacuum cleaner stopped working, so my husband naturally assumed the correct response was to get a new one, while I naturally assumed the correct response was to take the vacuum cleaner to a repair place, and we both followed our natural inclinations.  That might not be the actual reason -- we might have just decided it made sense to have a vacuum cleaner on each floor.  But the truth is, it was convenient to have both an upstairs and a downstairs vacuum cleaner, and the original cleaner did at some point get repaired.

Since that time, both vacuum cleaners have started having what you might call "personalities".  The upstairs (original) vacuum cleaner has been working less and less well, making incredible amounts of noise and appearing to work hard while having little noticeable effect on the dirt.  (In this way, the vacuum cleaner isn't entirely unlike its teenage users).   The downstairs, "new" vacuum cleaner developed some kind of electrical glitch so that the electric carpet brush would do its spinny thing only while we pushed forward, but would stop all action when we head backwards (I can't decide if that describes anyone in the house or not).

My husband started making more and more frequent comments along the lines of "we need to buy a new vacuum cleaner".  Naturally, I resisted, procrastinated, and urged a "wait-and-see" approach.  A new vacuum cleaner would get just as much mauling from our energetic sons as the old ones did; maybe we could limp along with what we had a little longer; yadda yadda.

I actually did poke around a bit on Craigslist.  Vacuum cleaners, even used ones, are much more expensive than I remembered -- running $100 (or even $500!) used.  Dang.

And then, in the way these wonderful things have their way of happening, some neighbors on NextDoor.com mentioned they were putting a vacuum cleaner at the curb -- anyone who wanted was welcome to come get it.  Bingo!  I love getting stuff I need on the cheap, even better if it's free.   I popped the trailer on the bike, peddled my way down the tree-lined boulevards to our neighbors' home, loaded the new-to-me vacuum cleaner into the trailer, and toodled back on home. That's the REceive part of this story.

Alas, this vacuum cleaner ALSO had a personality, in that the brush head seemed not to work at all (although the machine worked just fine for bare floors).  So now we were up to three vacuum cleaners, only one of which actually cleaned carpets anymore, and even that one only when you pushed forward.  J-son started balking at his weekend chores, saying the vacuum cleaner wouldn't work at all and we needed to buy a new one.  I handed him a broom, and he figured he'd rather vacuum pushing forward.

But still, it seemed like it was beyond time to go find a good repair shop.

Part of the reason I'd hesitated so long (aside from the time aspect of not wanting to think about this while I was working long days) was that the most recent, nearby repair shop I'd been to was a little sketchy.  So I hunted about a bit on the internet and found a place that seemed highly ranked at the long, long distance of 8 miles from my home.   I put the two non-working machines in the car (sigh), drove to the repair shop, and dropped off the vacuum cleaners.  After the guy repaired them both, I dropped off the forward-only vacuum while picking up the fixed machines.

Man, I love me a good repair shop.  They're often owned by really interesting people, for one thing.  This shop was run by a guy who'd inherited the place from his father, who started selling and repairing vacuum cleaners in the 1940's when a bad back forced him off the factory floor.  Bluegrass hymns played over the speakers, and a cat slept under the cash register.  When I picked the vacuum cleaners back up, the owner spoke earnestly and even a little lovingly to me about the fixes he'd made: replacing ball bearings in the rollers, filters, belts, and electrical connector cords.  He'd cleaned the innards of each machine out, and they looked much, much better than when I'd brought them in.

And, wow, when you've been using a vacuum cleaner with a personality, it's such a treat to bring home and then use a vacuum cleaner that actually picks up all the dirt.   On the first pass.  Wow.

So, what's the takeaway from this repair?
  1. We now have THREE vacuum cleaners that work, for the price of buying one new machine.  Whoop!  (We don't currently need three vacuum cleaners, of course, but when the kids start moving out, we can gift one or two of them with the extras, so they'll come in handy in the near future.)
  2. We kept THREE vacuum cleaners out of the landfill.  The only trash was a couple of broken belts, dirty filters, bad ball bearings, and cut cords.   Well, plus whatever exhaust comes with making three 16-mile round-trip automobile trips to the repair shop.  
  3. We avoided the need for the world to produce three new vacuum cleaners (with all the plastic, copper, energy, etc that goes into making them).
  4. We supported a local family-owned business.

Two of my three (working!!!) vacuums,
enjoying the sunshine by the back door,
on their return home from their trip to the vacuum salon & spa.
What a great getaway vacation they had!!!

And those are some REally good REasons to RElish REpair shops. 

Saturday, July 8, 2017

Miser Family update, obstacles version

Life in the Miser Mom continues to be rich and full.

We have seen unusual obstacles this weekend.  For example, my husband (toodling around on a rented bike in Israel) had to brake for donkey.  Y'know.


And me, toodling around on my own bike, headed for the grocery store with the bike trailer behind me, had a wheel fall off the trailer.  Fortunately, my husband didn't careen into the donkey and its riders, and I was a on a quiet road with no cars, and could leave the trailer by the side of the road, returning later with a car.  The trailer has been fixed now, and is once again ready for further grocery service.

A-child had her own temporary excitement when she experimented with anatomy and put a black bean (dried) up her nose.  This created some tense moments, but the bean came out again.  We didn't eat it, in case you're wondering.

What else happened?  J-son spent the first part of the week with his birth mom.   He told me that they went to a concert featuring "Boyz II Men" and what he described as "a woman singer whose name I can't remember, from your time, mom".  This second singer turned out to be Paula Abdul.  In fact, she is beyond my time; I'm not cool enough to actually recognize any of her songs. How embarrassing. 

N-son had more fun with his summer school history class on the two days that he went (the fourth of July ate up the first two days of the week, and there's never summer school on Friday, apparently).  He got to go with K-daughter to her job at the Y, and volunteered in the child care center.  I love how my kids work together!

Finally, for those of you who remember X-son (a young man we unsuccessfully attempted to adopt from Haiti, and who we still help out a bit), he just let us know that he's passed his exams and moved on to the next grade.    Woo-hoo!  It's good to have nice news from far away places.

And that's the latest from the Miser Mom clan, a family that continues to be prosperous in our adventures. May you and yours be similarly wealthy.

Tuesday, July 4, 2017

Fourth of July Dinner

It's good to get to go on a parade on the Fourth of July, and fortunately my neighborhood has an excellent parade for kids (announced via NextDoor. com, which is how I discovered the parade last year).

This year, N-son, K-daughter, A-child (she's getting too big to be called "Baby-A" any more), and Prewash joined me and the neighbors.


Later, I-daughter joined us for dinner, also dressed festively with a very, very desirable headdress.  That got co-opted by someone's niece.  

The menu included a rice/tex-mex flag that worked well last year, and worked even better this year since I'd made a note to self to keep the tex-mex really runny.  It made the rice taste really good!


At a yard sale last summer, I'd snagged star-shaped votive candles that I'd stowed away . . . 
. . . and also star shaped ice-cube trays, that I filled with homemade cherry juice I'd canned a year or so ago.  
And of course dessert was a flag-themed cheese cake.  Of course.

I mean, cheese cake.  Strawberries.  Blueberries.

What was I talking about?  Oh yeah, the fourth of July.   We all sang the Star-spangled banner, except A-child, who stared in amazement at the adults.  I also read the beginning and the end of the Declaration of Independence, omitting the indictment of specific crimes that it charged to old King George.  

And then, when the table was cleared (A-child loves clearing the table, by the way, because she loves giving the plates to Prewash, who loves pre-washing them), we worked on another yard sale find:  a map of the U.S.  


Especially right now, there's something satisfying about working to put our country together again.  Independence from tyranny is crucial, but there's something good to be said for struggling in the pursuit of Unity, too.  


(Oh, and someone put a small dinosaur on Alaska.  I promised I'd include that in the photo).  


The shark vs the water

N-son and J-son,
back when J-son was cute and geeky.
So, J-son has been wanting for years to get into the welding program at our local high school. On the carrot side, he's really good at building stuff (like bionicles and legos); on the stick side, he's dyslexic and hates-hates-hates the regular classroom, and (back on the carrot side) he knows welders earn big bucks. He's had every reason to want to get into this welding program, and he finally did, and we were all excited . . . and then he went to the orientation.

At the orientation, there was a giant auditorium full of kids, and J-son was the only black kid there. And he immediately dropped out of the program. He might try again after high school, enrolling at our school of technology, but he just doesn't want to spend a year in those social circles; he'd rather be back in his majority-black high school classes, even though he hates the classes themselves.

(For what it's worth, most of the kids in that welding program are from a rural area near here, where about a month or so ago there was a KKK gathering. As sad as I am about J-son pulling out of the program, I both understand and -- reluctantly -- support his decision.)

Me, I can remember the last time I walked into a room full of people where I was the only white person -- it was 2007, a local AME church.  It was a fabulous experience at the same time that it was a massively uncomfortable experience, a memorable experience. But it's not an everyday experience for me, and I know that makes my life different.  I might say, "I don't care about the color of people's skin". . . but the truth is, I don't have to, because I live my life comfortably in the majority bubble of whiteness.

My son's teachers are white. Their doctors are white. Our neighbors are white.  The actors we see at the theater are white. Even people in the daily newspaper comics are white (there are more talking animals than there are people of color -- what does that tell you about race in mainstream American culture?).  So right now, I'm feeling SUPER sensitive to presentations of people, and what that means for my teenage sons.

I love this photo.  But I don't want this to be the message
I send my students about who owns the mathematics
in  our book.
Presentations of people.  A few weeks ago, I got a trial photo, something that might be a cover for our future book.  (We don't have a publisher confirmed yet, but we're pretending like this book is going to work anyway).  One of my coauthors (who is not herself white -- her parents came from Japan) spent a great deal of time prepping and shooting a photo of a dancer who embodies a certain aspect of projections of triangles.  It was a beautiful trial photo, an awesome idea.  But I was all caught up in thinking about my sons; and a white, semi-clothed, ballerina hit too many chords of race and gender and class for me.  My coauthors and I had a heart-to-heart.  We're going to try again, but next time with a hip-hop dancer.

When the Klan was preparing their visit, and our community was reacting with predictable horror and counter-protest marches of faith --- by which I mean, the white community was reacting with horror etc --- my African American friends had a different reaction.  As one friend/hero/mentor wrote on her blog:
The problem is that when the Klan comes to town, you see the Great White shark that threatens you . . .  but suppose “white supremacy is the water”?
And of course she's right.  Truth is, whiteness is indeed everywhere.  (I mean, seriously, where are the black people in the comics?)  And the "everywhere" thing is the hard part.  It's not the hate aspect of white supremacy that threatens my sons.  It's the complacency aspect of it, the idea that well-intentioned people have when we say that diversity means "not caring about people's skin color".   My sons care about their skin color, every day.  It's a big deal for them, partly because they carry their skin with them wherever they go.

One of J-son's favorite new photos of himself.
Not so geeky anymore.
But also for my sons, there's so, so much more than skin color.  Race is tied to geography.  (One of J-son's black buddies was overwhelmed by the fact that J-son lives in such a faraway white neighborhood).  Race is tied to music (do the kids in the welding class listen to hip-hop, or to Country?).  Race is tied to clothing, to hair styles, to diction, to affect.  It's not enough to say, "we don't mind that you don't look like us" when, for my sons and lots of other kids, the differences are so much more than looks, and when the access barriers are so much more than whether people "care/notice/mind" skin color.

When the people who surround us every day look and act like us, we have to be extra careful to care about race and culture and everything that goes with that.

It's not only about whether I, or other majority white people, "care" about skin color.  It's just as much about whether J-son and other people of color feel like owners, or merely like guests, or (even worse) like interlopers.  It's about the water, not about the sharks.  




Saturday, July 1, 2017

Miser Family Update, scattered version

Life continues to be rich and full in the Miser Mom household.

In a blast-from-the-past, I got to read this little snippet from one of my grandfather's letters, written while visiting my parents two months after I was born, but bragging more on my dad than on me:

Some of the time we have spent performing the duties of doting grand-parents.  We took over one afternoon while both [my son] and his wife were at work. One evening we went to watch [my son] pitch a softball game for the Department of Physics team, which is in the Stanford Championships playoffs.  He had pitched 38 1/3 innings without allowing his first earned run, but one [sic] 5-1 anyhow.  He has a remarkable style. Have not yet learned how the final championship game came out.

My husband is still galavanting happily around eastern Europe, but more toward the western part of Eastern Europe, if that makes sense.  Here are some snippets from his short emails to me:  

I visited the very first concentration camp yesterday and then the Church where Luther was on trial. . . . Riding to  Wiesbaden today to see General Gronski from PA Guard. Tomorrow is Fulda with [his long-time friend] Cliff. Staying here making short trips till I go to Israel.  . . .  When I got back from the 65-mile ride, I rode up to Frankenstein's Castle . . . 

J-son spent the week with his foster mom, which made this house much quieter (in ways that were nice, as well as in lonely ways).  She gave him a lot of pep talks about the future that he took very much to heart, and he's come back full of plans of applying for jobs and for his driver's license.  It is very, very nice to have multiple parents helping to raise kids!  

N-son started summer school. Because he got into his dream program (all-day culinary arts) next year, he needs one more history class before he can graduate high school.  He's really loving the class, coming home to talk about debates that he and his friends in the course are having about race, the role of police, the army and the draft, and other topics.  We also got to fit him for his chef's uniforms that he'll be wearing all next year -- black aprons, white aprons, sous-chef hats, pants, shirts, jackets with his name embroidered on them . . . we dropped $300 on clothes for him, which (for me) is a HUGE amount.  

K-daughter has a job at our local Y, which is within walking distance of the house, and which also has childcare for Baby-A.  Yay!  I got to spend a half a day with Baby-A on Saturday, and she was a fabulous help with watering the garden plants.  

In other daughter news, I-daughter had a scare with her eye: she's got "iritis" (meaning inflammation of the iris).  She'd gotten eye drops that didn't actually help, and then was referred in a rather dramatic fashion to specialist eye doctors, who decided to run blood tests for auto-immune diseases.  They prescribed medications that took an annoying number of attempts to fill, but now my daughter is on steroids, and she says they're helping. Phew!  Yay for steroids!

I'm enjoying summer research with my summer student.  We got to the point where we got stuck on a question we'd been trying to solve.  I got to teach my student my favorite fabulous math trick: change the question to one that we've already figured out how to solve. She wisely asked if she was allowed to do this on exams -- I told her no, she needs to get her PhD before she's allowed to try this trick on her own.

And that's the latest from the Miser Mom clan, a family that has been prosperous in adventures. May you and yours be similarly wealthy.

Wednesday, June 28, 2017

Getting to the "who cares" stage of parenting

J-son took me aside a few days ago.  With my husband overseas for a month or so, J-son is starting to feel more and more responsible for others in the house.  In his big-brotherly -- or possibly faux-fatherly -- way, he told me he was worried about N-son -- the way N-son eats so much junk food, the way he continues to have odor problems.  What's going to happen to him after high school? I said I was worried, too, and I described the various steps I've tried to take to help N-son help himself. And then I said, "but one thing I've learned is, you can't care more about a person's problems than he cares himself.  At some point, he's going to have to deal with this or live with this, and it's his choice."

In other words, at some point, both J-son and I have to back off, and let N-son eat and groom (or not) the way he chooses.  A hard lesson for us.  

It was only two days later that J-son lapsed again into difficulties of his own.  He's still spending all the money he comes into contact with, and occasionally starting to lift other people's money again.  Starting in October, his Social Security money runs out, which means that with no job he'll have no income and no money saved, not to mention expensive habits that he'll want to keep funding.  Speaking of those habits, he's been using the money to fund Extremely Unhealthy Purchases, which he lies to me about.  He says he wants to be a boxer, but then he doesn't actually go box, in spite of both his coach and me encouraging him to spend his days in the gym. 

This kid.  I reminded J-son about the conversation in which he told me he's worried about N-son, and I said that in a similar way I'm worried about him.  I said, I'm trying to help you, but I know that at some point I can't care more about this than you do.  You might end up living at our local rescue mission a year from now when you graduate high school and have to move out of the house, but that's going to be on you, because I'm trying to do what I can right now, but I can't do your half.  

This is a new tough stage of parenting.  There's part of me that's like the horse that smells the barn doors:  next year is their last year of high school and then I get to start the transition to having the kids all move out!  And I am almost counting down the days.  Is that awful?  I've been a parent for more than half my life now; I may or may not be ready to retire from my professional job, but I'm feeling darned antsy to retire from the primary parenting role.  I am Jonesing for those future days when the kids all come back once a week for dinner, and I dispense and advice and food and love . . . and then shoo them out the door back to their own homes again.  

At the same time, I want to make this last stretch as strong and successful as I can make it.  I feel like I keep walking the balance beam between steering these kids in the right direction and giving them enough rudder to steer themselves.  When do I take over and rescue them from their errors?  How much do I hover?  

And, of course, this question:  how do I care enough about the shape of their future lives without depriving them of the chance to care about it more than I do?

Monday, June 26, 2017

A frugalist's social media site

This little blog post is a loving tribute to a social media site, NextDoor.com.  I stumbled upon this site a little more than a year ago, and I've been grooving to it ever since.

For one thing, this site provides me with yet another source of re-homed items, a way to find people who want to use things that would otherwise be tossed. I picked up a vacuum cleaner that almost works  (more on the almost-vacuum-cleaner in some future post, probably); just this past weekend I got some native plants (shasta daisies and lemon thyme) through my NextDoor connections.  Some people offer stuff for sale, but I haven't had the urge to buy anything yet.  (No surprise there, I guess).

Shasta Daisies, about to move into my front yard.

But NextDoor has done more than get me a couple of freebies or help me offload my own unwanted stuff.  It's really helping me to connect to my neighborhood and my neighbors in ways that build that strong social capital that I believe is so important, and that I felt I was missing for many years.

For one thing, I get to see the kinds of things my neighbors care about. There's a surprising (to me) number of my neighbors who are very nervous about crime, and "suspicious person sightings" come up fairly regularly.  There was the great outdoor cat debate, with many people eventually being won over to the side of the woman who really, really wanted other people to keep their cats out of her yard (and who'd kicked off the debate by announcing she'd remove them to the Humane League herself, if the cats entered).  I'm really appreciating getting to know the neighborhood in a way that I couldn't otherwise have gotten to do, and to see sides of social issues that affect my neighbors that I couldn't have seen just by jogging past their homes in the early morning.

We also get updates about local happenings that wouldn't make the paper -- nearby gas leaks, traffic patterns changing over the weekend because of a school graduation, water line issues.

Fourth-of-July Ramble through the neighborhood
But I get to meet with people face-to-face because of the website, too, and that's what makes me love NextDoor the most.  I learn about gatherings in the area, like the bicycle-pedestrian Fourth-of-July parade through a couple of blocks of shady streets, ending up at a giant ice cream party.  That family-friendly ramble was just a hoot and a half.

And I've even gotten the chance to join a pair of social/educational groups.  Last fall, one woman in our neighborhood started a group she calls "LOUD"; that stands for "Locally Organized, United in Diversity".  It's not actually a loud group at all; it's a bunch of fairly sweet people who get together once a month and have speakers come in to educate us about local diversity issues: the ways our local school district supports its refugee/immigrant children and families, for example.  The other group I've joined happily is a native plant gardening group, which likewise gets together once a month.  (That's how I got those shasta daisies, by the way).

I'm not a FaceBook person at all, and I've heard that there are local neighborhood groups on that platform, too.  But from what I've gathered from my neighbors, this particular group is more focussed and usable for communications between neighbors.  It's almost, but not quite, the modern version of a front porch or a town square.

And that's why I'm now on social media.

Saturday, June 24, 2017

Miser Family update, scattered version

Life continues to be rich and full in the Miser Mom household.  

The week kicked off with the news that J-son won his fight last Saturday.  Whoop!  He spent much of the rest of the week relaxing as only a teenager can relax, until Friday when he helped set up the rings at another boxing event.  Early today, he left to spend a week with his former foster mom.  

N-son kicked off the week by entering, and working super hard in, a set of Father's Day bike races.  Later in the week, he and I volunteered with our church group at GAiN, which sends clothing, food, and more to refugees and disaster victims around the world. 


And speaking of around the world, my husband is still riding his bike --- plus many different kinds of trains --- across eastern Europe.  He's been through Prague, Warsaw, Auschwitz, Krakow, Ukraine (where he got dinner in a mason jar), and East Berlin; he's headed now for a meet-up with his former-army-buddy-turned-monk, Brother Cliff.

There's not much together-ish stuff we're doing as a family right now (what with my husband on the other side of the planet, and so on), but a medium-sized subset of us (N-son, K-daughter, and I) got to go together with some friends to our local theater's excellent production of "Newsies".  That was awesome.  

As a way of spending time together this weekend, Baby-A "helped" me plant corn.  I don't think it's likely to grow this late in the season, but it has a better chance if it's in the ground than if it's in an envelope in my closet.  So why not put stuff in dirt, and see if something green grows?


As for me, I'm bouncing between gardening (harvesting the kale I planted in spring), helping with GAiN, and having lots of fun with my math research.  My summer student has made some good progress, and we might actually have something publishable to write up before the project is over.  

Saturday, June 17, 2017

Miser Family Update, summer edition

Life continues to be rich and full in the Miser Mom household.

My husband writes that "I will be in Prague tonight. Today's ride added hills to the headwinds. Slowest ride ever. I will be in Poland on Father's Day."  He's visited Belgrade, Budapest, Macedonia (?? I think ??), and probably a few other countries I didn't get to hear about. In spite of his being a half a world away, much of our married life is completely as usual, with him on a bike and with me fussing about finances.  So that's good.

For my sons, the big news is that school let out this week.  Summer begins.

I've mentioned in the past that J-son has spent a lot of time with friends of his.  I tend to think of this as "teenage boys hanging, doing who-knows-what".  But this past week, partly because of graduation parties, I've gotten to chat with the parents of J-son's friends.  They say things like, "J-son is such a good kid; we're so glad he's friends with our son.  He's become like family around here."  I look at these parents after they say these things, waiting for the sarcasm tag, or the "wink-wink", but it never comes.  They're truly earnest.  It's heart warming, if a little surprising.  J-son is at a boxing match today; I don't know how he's doing yet.

Once school let out, N-son reconnected with some of his favorite chefs at our local soup kitchen late this week.  He and I-daughter also dazzled audiences of shoppers (and music lovers) at our nearby Kitchen Kettle Village in the lovely little town of Intercourse, PA, with a choral performance.  In the photo below, I-daughter is in a black t-shirt in the front row on the left, and N-son in an orange shirt in a back row, just a bit right of the middle.


K-daughter, with the help of I-daughter, has gotten even better at doing the butterfly.  In fact, I-daughter tells me K-daughter did two lengths of the pool.  Woo!  Meanwhile, K-daughter's daughter continues to bond with our new dog Prewash.  They battle over their same toys.  They cuddle and giggle together.  (Maybe Baby-A wants to become a puppy.)   But Baby-A can't go up the wooden stairs through the dog door into the dog yard, and now Prewash can. (Success!)


Me, I'm still doing math and committee work and ancestor stuff.  Speaking of ancestor stuff, here's part of a letter from my grandfather to a friend, that I don't want to save in its entirety, but this little snippet is so much fun (for me) that I'm going to share it with you.  It's from November 1966, when I was eight months old:

On [this date in March], Billie [my grandma] and I gave birth to [Miser Mom].  This is a pretty good stunt, because it happened in Palo Alto while we were still in Oxford.  She is, as you can imagine, having a had a number of similar experiences, the most beautiful creature ever to grace the face of this globe.  Actually, she looks exactly like our own children when they were babies.  We can verify this by running our old movies.  There are scenes in them which in appearance behavior and expressions, could be inserted into the current record we are making of [Miser Mom], and it would appear to be all the same child.  

It's so encouraging to read my grandpa's letters, and to see these threads travel through the generations.  My grandpa became a lifetime member of the NAACP several years before I was born.  I think he would have been very happy about his great-grandsons, even though they don't look exactly like the other children and grandchildren as babies.  But the love and pride, that's a great tradition to be part of, and I'm enjoying my children and grandchildren this summer, as I'm sure he enjoyed his.

Friday, June 16, 2017

How my hands dry

Penn asked a question about how I avoid paper towels in public places:
What do you do in public bathrooms? I think that would warrant a post. I know some people carry little cloths for wiping up. My favorite ted talk is actually about public restroom paper towels. It's by Joe Smith and called "how to use a paper towel." I recommend it! 

This little 4-to-5-minute video is indeed quirky and fun, if you're into this kind of thing (which apparently Penn and I are!)  Mr. Smith claims that Americans use 13 billion pounds of paper towels every year. By reducing this amount, we could "save" (which really means "no longer waste") 571,230,000 pounds. He says people tend to take 3 towels in a public bathroom; he shows how to do the drying job with just one towel via this little routine: Shake hands 12 times, fold the one towel, and dry. He's a cheerful connoisseur of public paper towels, and demonstrates his routine with no fewer than 5 different kinds of public-bathroom paper towels.

Me, I'm not about to make a you tube video telling people to avoid paper towels entirely (although I do avoid them myself, and I do think that Mr. Smith is kind of nerdy adorable).  So don't think of what I'm about to say as proscriptive; it's really a glimpse at what I do.



When I'm traveling, I usually have a travel scarf with me.  It was initially designed as beach wrap (it's about 3 feet by 6 feet, but scrunches up nice and small, too).   I use it while I'm on the road as a blanket, scarf, shawl, you-have-it.  Douglas Adams, who advised intergalactic hitchhikers to always carry a towel, would probably approve.  So in airport and hotel restrooms, I tend to dry my hands on this scarf, which itself dries very quickly.




Okay, I know this gets a little odder, here.  During the summer, when I'm in my office and using the restrooms there, I like to wipe my hands on my legs and arms.  I don't rub hard or anything; I just swipe once -- but our skin has a lot of surface area, so it's quick and effective.  This not only gets my hands dry, but it also adds moisture (and a bit of cooling) to my arms and legs.  

In the winter, when my skin is more covered up, I'll still use what skin I have (face and neck), and then I admit I either walk around with wet hands for the next minute while they air dry, or I'll wipe my hands on my clothes.  This, I know, is not an option for other people.  

By the way, my office restrooms don't have paper towels as an option; they have those high-efficiency air blowers.  I hate the noise of those things, and I only use them extremely infrequently (like, if I'm carrying paper handouts that would be rumpled by my wet hands).  

And . . . that's how my hands dry when I'm away from home. 

Wednesday, June 14, 2017

New dog gushes

Here is an update on how our new dog is doing.  I admit I'm not a huge fan of "oh, see how cute my pet is!" kind of stories, so I'm going to try to corral these all into one post.  But I will have this one post, because our pet is so darned cute!

We got our dog from the local SPCA; she came to this shelter from the southern and eminently spell-able state of Mississippi.



Prewash has been with us for two weeks now.  She trends toward being extremely mellow; the photo at the right might give you a sense of that.  Her first night, after we'd been in bed a half hour, my husband asked me if I'd put the dog in her crate and I said, "No; she's been lying on the floor next to me this whole time!"  She's definitely a much calmer dog than our last attempt, and even calmer than our earlier beloved Miser Dog (whom she looks a lot alike!).

At the same time, she gets along fairly well with other dogs (unlike all other dogs that I've own, which have been selfish and nasty little brutes around other four-legged creatures).  It's a lot of fun to take her to the dog park and let her run wild, because she can tear back and forth with the best of them.  And when we get back home, she goes from 60 to 0 in about ten seconds, curling up quietly again.  Magic.

She already follows me around everywhere. So that's good.  And she's super gentle with the kids and with my granddaughter, even when Baby-A gets in her face and "tickles" her or takes her toys.  


The cliff of death.
Ain't gonna venture over the edge.

She's also supremely trainable, from what I can see. The day we brought her home, she had apparently never heard of this strange custom called "sit" and thought it was some kind of torture/intimidation. On a walk the first night, she was essentially a paddle ball bouncing back and forth between me and the end of the leash, in every direction she could manage.  Woo!  That was a whole body workout!  But now, just two weeks later, she's pretty much got "sit" and "heel", and we're starting to work on "stay".

Perhaps more story-worthy:  we discovered the night we brought her home that she was terrified of stairs.   If she was downstairs and I went upstairs, she might as well have been watching me ascending like Jesus to heaven on a cloud, as far as she could dare follow me.  If  I carried her up to my sewing room, and then went down a two-step set of stairs to J-son's room, she looked at the two stairs down to the landing like it was a cliff at the edge of a bottomless pit.

Nope, better to hunker down here
than to risk catastrophe.


So we have done a bunch of leash work, walking her around a park near my college, up and down progressively more stairs (the four stairs at the playground, the six stairs in front of an office building, etc), and now she barrels up and down the stairs in the house like a pro.  We've even managed work our way up to the gold standard: navigating her way in and out of her dog run.  To do this, she has to go 
  • down the basement stairs,
  • into the utility room,
  • up a set of wooden stairs I built 8 years ago,
  • through a dog door built into a boarded-over window of a window well,
  • and up out of the window well to the ground of her dog run.  
Of course, to come back into the house she needs to do all of that in reverse.  And now she can.  She hasn't yet decided on her own initiative to make the trek to the dog run (we've had about three accidents in the house so far), but I'm optimistic for the future. 

She doesn't bark at strangers, which is both a blessing and a disadvantage.  It'd be nice to have a burglar alarm.

Did I mention she follows me around?  She really likes to be with me, which means when I'm home I know exactly where she is, which is great.  She doesn't much like to be alone, but she seems to take to the crate reasonably well when I have to leave the house.  

As for living up to her name, she is awesome at Prewashing the dishes.  She's ecumenical in her tastes, and she licks all the dishes clean, and then double clean just to be sure.   (After which, we put them in the dishwasher -- not back in the cupboards.   I promise!)

And, perhaps most importantly, here in the Miser Mom household, she's universally adored.  It's not just me doting on her: the kids want to be around her.  They love snuggling up to her, taking her for walks, giving and getting a bit of physical affection.   She's good with the family, and she's good for the family.


And that's the end of my "isn't she adorable?" post.




Monday, June 12, 2017

The Paris (Dis) Agreement

Just a short little addendum to my earlier musings about the Paris agreement -- or in this, case, the Paris DisAgreement.  Sigh.  Last week, I urged my governor to join other state leaders in the bipartisan United States Climate Alliance, a group of governors who
"are committed to achieving the U.S. goal of reducing emissions 26–28 percent from 2005 levels and meeting or exceeding the targets of the federal Clean Power Plan."
As of Saturday, my governor had "pledged support".  (That's all me, right?)   Governors don't have to be Democrats to join (fewer than 60% of the states that have joined or pledged support are states with Dems as governors).

Meanwhile, the local paper announced that our city's mayor has joined the "Climate Mayors", a group that, according to our newspaper, represents  more than 200 U.S. cities and more than 50 million people.  (Their website listed 274 mayors, when I checked on Thursday).  From their website http://www.climate-mayors.org/blog/:

As 274 US Mayors representing 58 million Americans, we will adopt, honor, and uphold the commitments to the goals enshrined in the Paris Agreement. We will intensify efforts to meet each of our cities’ current climate goals, push for new action to meet the 1.5 degrees Celsius target, and work together to create a 21st century clean energy economy.

In spite of the DisAgreement at the Federal level, I'm glad to see cities and states stepping in.   In fact, that "274" is now up to "292".   And in other encouraging news, in the one short week since the DisAgreement, almost half of the governors of states have joined the Alliance or pledged support.  Sometimes I feel like such an eco-nut, but I have to keep reminding myself that I'm not alone.  Indeed, as the Alliance site notes,
Nearly 70 percent of Americans, including a majority of people in all 50 states, support the Paris Agreement on climate change.
So, the roots of the grass (that is, the grass-roots movement) and the many branches of government are organically growing.  As they should.